MINISTERS MATTER

PEGGY PAULINE BONNAR

THIS NOTICE WILL RUN UNTIL TUESDAY, AUGUST 5, 2008

 

BONNAR, PEG
(nee Challis)

PEACEFULLY, at the age of 82, surrounded by her family, Peg passed into the presence of her Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ on Thursday, July 31, 2008 from the comfort of her home.

BELOVED wife of the late Ted Bonnar.

MOTHER of John, Meehan, Joyce, Brian, Judy and Carol.

MOTHER-IN-LAW to Sharon, Mary, Barry and Janice.

GRANDMOTHER to Tim (Sandra), Kelly (Jermaine), David (Anne), Chris (Laurie), Kim (Stéphane), Jason (Lori), Todd (Erin), Darlene (Scott), Jeff, Chris, Heather (Ryan), Trevor (Caroline), Evan, Christine, Melissa, Amanda.

GREAT-GRANDMOTHER to Olivia, Johnny, Erica, Nathan, Tonya, Emily, Matthew, Tristan, Ryan, Grace, Tref, Parker, Emma, Ally, Kamryn, Lauryn, Jake, Logan, Matthew, Caitlin and Logan.

SISTER to Rita, Pat, Carol, Maury and Tony Challis of the UK.

PRE-DECEASED by her father Alfred, her mother Rose and brother George.

VISITATION will be from 7 pm to 9 pm at McEVOY-SHIELDS, 1411 Hunt Club Road, Ottawa, on Monday, August 4, 2008.

THE FUNERAL will be held in the Chapel of McEVOY-SHIELDS at 11 am on Tuesday, August 5, 2008 with Pastors Barry & Jason Boucher officiating.

INTERMENT to follow at Capital Memorial Gardens immediately following the service.

A RECEPTION will be held at McEvoy-Shields following the interment for family and friends. Everyone is welcome.

IN MEMORY OF PEG'S LOVE FOR AND WORK WITH CHILDREN, donations to The Life Centre’s ‘Children’s Program’ in her name would be greatly appreciated. Income tax receipts will be given. Go to www.lifecentre.org and click on New? for contact information.

Personal condolences can be sent via e-mail to: info@lifecentre.org

OUR GOD REIGNS

No matter what happens to us in life, and life can be tough indeed, our God reigns!

Listen to this amazing song entitled 'Healer - This is our God.' Watch the lead singer sing through his own pain. He is wearing an oxygen supply and calls out to God in faith believing - no matter the end result!

Enjoy!

THE FIVE NEEDS OF A HUSBAND

If you are a married woman reading this blog, do you know the five major needs of your husband? As you read these five, how accurate are they in your marriage relationship?

Gentlemen, are these true for you? What else would you add to the list?

If you are a single man, how accurate is this list in your relational priorities?

The first is sexual fulfillment. The typical wife doesn't understand her husband's deep need for sex anymore than the typical husband understands his wife's deep need for affection. But these two ingredients can work very closely together in a happy, fulfilled marriage. Sex can come naturally and often, if there is enough affection.

The second need for a man is recreational companionship. He needs her to be his playmate. It is not uncommon for women, when they are single, to join men in pursuing their interests. They find themselves hunting, fishing, playing football, and watching sports and movies they would never have chosen on their own.

After marriage wives often try to interest their husbands in activities more to their own liking. If their attempts fail, they may encourage their husbands to continue their recreational activities without them. But this option is very dangerous to a marriage, because men place surprising importance on having their wives as recreational companions. Among the five basic male needs, spending recreational time with his wife is second only to sex for the typical husband.

A husband's third need is an attractive spouse. A man needs a wife who looks good to him. Dr. Harley states that in sexual relationships most men find it nearly impossible to appreciate a woman for her inner qualities alone--there must be more. A man's need for physical attractiveness in a mate is profound.

The fourth need for a man is domestic support. He needs peace and quiet. So deep is a husband's need for domestic support from his wife that he often fantasizes about how she will greet him lovingly and pleasantly at the door, about well-behaved children who likewise act glad to see him and welcome him to the comfort of a well-maintained home.

The fantasy continues as his wife urges him to sit down and relax before taking part in a tasty dinner. Later the family goes out for an evening stroll, and he returns to put the children to bed with no hassle or fuss. Then he and his wife relax, talk together, and perhaps watch a little television until they retire at a reasonable hour to love each other. Wives may chuckle at this scenario, but this vision is quite common in the fantasy lives of many men. The male need for his wife to "take care of things"--especially him--is widespread, persistent, and deep.

The fifth need is admiration. He needs her to be proud of him. Wives need to learn how to express the admiration they already feel for their husbands instead of pressuring them to greater achievements. Honest admiration is a great motivator for men. When a woman tells a man she thinks he's wonderful, that inspires him to achieve more. He sees himself capable of handling new responsibilities and perfecting skills far above those of his present level.

From the book His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage by Willard F. Harley Jr.

THE FIVE NEEDS OF A WIFE

If you are a married man reading this blog, do you know the five major needs of your wife? As you read these five, how accurate are they in your marriage relationship?

Ladies, are these true for you? What else would you add to the list?

If you are a single woman, how accurate is this list in your relational priorities?

The first need is for affection. To most women affection symbolizes security, protection, comfort, and approval. When a husband shows his wife affection, he sends the following messages: (1) I'll take care of you and protect you; (2) I'm concerned about the problems you face, and I am with you; (3) I think you've done a good job, and I'm so proud of you.

Men need to understand how strongly women need these affirmations. For the typical wife, there can hardly be enough of them. A hug can communicate all of the affirmations of the previous paragraph. But, affection can be shown in many ways such as: kisses, cards, flowers, dinners out, opening the car door, holding hands, walks after dinner, back rubs, phone calls--there are a thousand ways to say "I love you." From a woman's point of view, affection is the essential cement of her relationship with a man.

The second need is conversation. Wives need their husbands to talk to them and to listen to them; they need lots of two-way conversation. In their dating life prior to marriage, most couples spent time time showing each other affection and talking. This shouldn't be dropped after the wedding. When two people get married, each partner has a right to expect the same loving care and attention that prevailed during courtship to continue after the wedding. The man who takes time to talk to a woman will have an inside track to her heart.

The third need is honesty and openness. A wife needs to trust her husband totally. A sense of security is the common thread woven through all of a woman's five basic needs. If a husband does not keep up honest and open communication with his wife, he undermines her trust and eventually destroys her security. To feel secure, a wife must trust her husband to give her accurate information about his past, the present, and the future. If she can't trust the signals he sends, she has no foundation on which to build a solid relationship. Instead of adjusting to him, she always feels off balance; instead of growing toward him, she grows away from him.

Financial commitment is a fourth need a wife experiences. She needs enough money to live comfortably: she needs financial support. No matter how successful a career a woman might have, she usually wants her husband to earn enough money to allow her to feel supported and to feel cared for.

The fifth need is family commitment. A wife needs her husband to be a good father and have a family commitment. The vast majority of women who get married have a powerful instinct to create a home and have children. Above all, wives want their husbands to take a leadership role in the family and to commit themselves to the moral and educational development of their children.

From the book His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage by Willard F. Harley Jr.

PETER J. DANIELS - INTERNATIONAL BUSINESS STATESMAN

I am looking forward to September 20-22, 2008 as Peter Daniels comes to The Life Centre in Ottawa. He will mentor and invest in both church and business leaders of the Capital Region.

Peter J. Daniels came from a poor family background and suffered from ill health and dyslexia. He never passed one grade at school, failed in business 3 times over, and was plagued by illiteracy and low self-esteem.

However, from this humble beginning, he developed a deep faith in God, which caused him to rise from the pit to the pedestal of global success.

Today he is a world recognized authority on leadership, personal development and goal setting. He is personally wealthy, benevolent, and has a “no debt” philosophy. His family owns the only private-owned gold and silver bullion bank in the world.
His books sell at a frantic pace around the world. One tape recording on encouragement has reached over one million copies.

Peter J. Daniels is one of the world's most highly paid strategic planners and public speakers. Two companies have paid him a million dollars for advice. The success of his program has been so phenomenal that Peter J. Daniels exclaims, “Every 48 hours, gifts arrive from Christian business people whom I have helped to turn into millionaires.”

The business community has said of him, “he could motivate an Egyptian mummy to walk.” He has received many honors from universities, theological colleges, governments, business and humanitarian organizations around the world.

He is a genius for creating simple business formulas to solve difficult problems and thousands flock to hear him speak.

He has lectured to an audience of 31 000 CEO-s of major international organizations ( picture on left). All who have the opportunity to know him conclude that Peter J. Daniels is “a man who loves Jesus and his family."

Peter Daniels has been touching the lives of millions of people, not only in the business community, but people from all walks of life, with life-changing guidance and sound, focused leadership.

PETER'S SCHEDULE INCLUDES:

• Saturday 10:00 to Noon. Negotiate a deal. Create a business plan. Raise capital. Run a business.
• Sunday 9:00 am & 10:45 am. Leadership under fire and being a mountain climber.
• Sunday 6:00 pm Dr. Pat Francis is our special guest.
• Monday 9:00 am -Noon. Successful attitudes.
  Monday Luncheon. When dreams fade. What to do with your business.
• Monday 7:00 pm. How to reach your life goals. An illustrated talk.

Mark your calendar now and be a part of the most informative, inspirational and spiritual uplifts you will ever receive. He has a proven track record of trust in God, His Word and His Ways. This is a man we need to listen to as church and business leaders.

September 20-22, 2008, The Life Centre, 2214 Innes Road, Ottawa, Ontario, K1B 4C4

PETER J. DANIELS BIO

SEPTEMBER 20-22, 2008

THE LIFE CENTRE
2214 INNES ROAD
OTTAWA, ONTARIO
K1B 4C4

Peter will be in the Nation's Capital to invest in the church and it's business leaders. Don't miss this once in a lifetime opportunity.

Peter Daniels came from a disadvantaged background and his early years were plagued by illiteracy and ignorance; yet he built a large business in real estate in Australia with South-East Asian connections, and has served on the international boards covering the four corners of the earth.

Married to Robina with three children and eight grandchildren, they are the instigators of a committed Christian family.

He is conservative, wealthy and benevolent and is involved in business and Christian outreaches in many countries. He has authored thirteen books and created numerous business programs that are used extensively throughout the world.

Peter Daniels has been honored by universities, institutions and governments for his ability and benevolence internationally, and has worked with some of the most outstanding intellectual business and religious giants of the twentieth century.

He has served as International Director for the Hour of Power television ministry, Worldwide Leadership Council, World Treasurer for Youth for Christ International for eleven years, and Chairman of Youth for Christ Australia for fifteen years.

He travels tirelessly in his own country and throughout the world propagating his faith and family values.

Mark your calendar now for September 20-22, 2008 and get ready to be mentored and trained by a man who has proven success in every part of his life and ministry.  

Tomorrow I will give a brief outline of the talks Peter will give while in Ottawa.

PETER J. DANIELS IN PERSON

PETER IS COMING TO CANADA'S CAPITAL

SEPTEMBER 20-22, 2008

THE LIFE CENTRE
2214 INNES ROAD
OTTAWA, ONTARIO
K1B 4C4

Don't miss this one-time opportunity to hear him live!

Peter J. Daniels, born 1932 in Melborne, Australia, is one of the world's most highly paid strategic planners and public speakers.

He is a strong Christian, an accomplished speaker, and a lover of excellence. During his talks, he shares his workable answers to the "meaning and purpose" of life. 

For a third of a century he has successfully studied, absorbed and experienced, first hand, the elusive field of business, and at times has worked with some of the most dynamic corporate and intellectual giants of the last century.

Often people will fly or travel up to 1500 miles by road just to hear him speak.

Many seek Peter to participate in their annual conventions, while politicians, pastors, bankers and universities call on him for council. He has even received $1,000,000 from a global company for a one hour consultation. He has a gift for making complex situations simple.

For more than a decade, as the President and Founder of the World Centre for Entrepreneurial Studies, Peter Daniels has been touching the lives of millions of people, not only in the business community but with people from all walks of life with life-changing guidance and sound, focused leadership.

Peter Daniels came from a disadvantaged background and his early years were plagued by illiteracy and ignorance; yet he built...

Watch tomorrow's blog for his extended bio.

EVERYBODY HURTS

Over the last few weeks I've been processing the uncertainties of life even though, as a pastor, I understand life and death issues from the scriptures.

My mother-in-law is about to enter into palliative care, which means time for all of us in the family is very, very precious.

Simple things are becoming treasured memories...a cup of tea, a bowl of chicken soup and a little walk down memory lane. These are the moments I will remember long after she has gone to be with Jesus.

Everybody hurts even though there are thousands of books, tapes and seminars encouraging us to live well and be positive. When life is going well, we don't give a second thought to our mortality or the importance of our relationships. We are too busy living life to think about the value of life itself and the stories of those we share life with.

Peg has a wonderful story. Raised in England during the war years, she worked in a munitions factory at 14 to help her country defeat the Nazis. She served her country well.

She met a Canadian soldier by the name of Ted Bonnar. They fell in love, married and started their family and a new life in Canada. She served her husband well. Peg crossed the Atlantic on the Queen Mary with thousands of war brides. I had the privilege of taking Kim, my daughter, to see and tour the QM when it was docked at Long Beach. A connection between grandmother and granddaughter. .

Now at 82 she is looking back fondly at raising her 4 children, 8 grand-children and 18 great-grandchildren. She served her family well.

What most people don't know is that Peg has also raised 100's of foster children for the Children's Aid Society of Ottawa. Lives that were plucked from despair and planted into her loving embrace.

When I first met Joyce I was also introduced to all her foster brothers and sisters. There were too many to count. I saw a new one every few weeks as Peggy opened her home to another baby who needed to be loved and cared for. Some stayed for days, others weeks and some for years. They call her 'mom' to this day. She served her foster children well.

I've known her now for over 40 years and I have never called her mom. She has always been Peggy Pauline to me because that's what her kids called her. I guess I've just wanted to be one of her kids.

Do you have a favorite 'Peg story' that you'd like to share with the rest of her family? Just add a comment and we will read it to her. It will make her day.

Ecclesiastes 12 says these comforting words, "the Preacher also taught the people knowledge, weighing and studying and arranging many proverbs with great care. The Preacher sought to find words of delight, and uprightly he wrote words of truth. The words of the wise are like goads, and like nails firmly fixed are the collected sayings; they are given by one Shepherd. My son, beware of anything beyond these. Of making many books there is no end, and much study is a weariness of the flesh.

The end of the matter; all has been heard. Fear God and keep his commandments, for this is the whole duty of man. For God will bring every deed into judgment, with every secret thing, whether good or evil.

JESUS SAID, "DO NOT STOP HIM."

The longer I serve the Lord, the more concerned I get with the arrogance of many who think their version of the faith, is the only one that is correct. They are quick to reject anything new, different, or that which attracts the attention of the multitudes.

Lakeland is a prime example of people tuning in from all over the world to the events happening in a tent, by an airport.

You simply have to read ALL my blogs on Lakeland to discover that I bless whatever God is doing and pray for those leading at Lakeland to be humble and change whatever needs to change, whenever it needs to change. The Holy Spirit is good at speaking to those who are listening.

Practically, a little grace goes a long way in helping others have space to grow up. How long did you live before accepting Christ into your life? What were you like before repentance? I'm sure others wanted to hurry the process of your change, but they didn't.

Too often fear is at the root of rejecting what God is doing. Proof texts are used to disprove others and thereby set ourselves up as the standard by which the faith is to be measured. If you really want to play "my scripture is better than your scripture" then you are foolish indeed.

You can make the Bible say whatever you want it to say and still be wrong. Think of the religious leaders in Jesus' day who quoted the text correctly but missed the point - it was all about Jesus and He was standing in their midst and they couldn't see Him!

The bottom line for me is the fruit that is evident in those who are critical. It is always, and I mean always, judgmental, critical and arrogant. While what they say may have merit, how they say it undermines the leading of the Spirit into all truth.

Some of Jesus' disciples wanted to reign fire down from heaven on those who didn't believe the way they did. Others who walked with Him daily were given a great lesson on God's ability to use others that we may not approve of.

Mark 9:38-41 (English Standard Version)

Anyone Not Against Us Is for Us

John said to him, "Teacher, we saw someone casting out demons in your name, and we tried to stop him, because he was not following us." But Jesus said, "Do not stop him, for no one who does a mighty work in my name will be able soon afterward to speak evil of me. For the one who is not against us is for us. For truly, I say to you, whoever gives you a cup of water to drink because you belong to Christ will by no means lose his reward.

Let us love one another the way Jesus loved us!

CHRISTIAN THE LION - A REUNION

This is a wonderful video clip. The Bible refers to lions many times and especially a time to come when peace will finally dwell upon the whole earth and we will see signs like this everywhere in the animal kingdom. For those of us frightened by certain creatures, this is a great promise for the future.

Isaiah 11:6-7 (English Standard Version)

The wolf shall dwell with the lamb, and the leopard shall lie down with the young goat, and the calf and the lion and the fattened calf together; and a little child shall lead them. The cow and the bear shall graze; their young shall lie down together; and the lion shall eat straw like the ox.

Daniel 6:19-23 (English Standard Version)

Then, at break of day, the king arose and went in haste to the den of lions . As he came near to the den where Daniel was, he cried out in a tone of anguish. The king declared to Daniel, "O Daniel, servant of the living God,has your God, whom you serve continually,been able to deliver you from the lions?" Then Daniel said to the king, "O king, live forever! My God sent his angel and shut the lions’ mouths, and they have not harmed me, because I was found blameless before him; and also before you, O king, I have done no harm." Then the king was exceedingly glad, and commanded that Daniel be taken up out of the den. So Daniel was taken up out of the den, and no kind of harm was found on him, because he had trusted in his God.

2 Timothy 4:17 (English Standard Version)

But the Lord stood by me and strengthened me, so that through me the message might be fully proclaimed and all the Gentiles might hear it. So I was rescued from the lion’s mouth.

Enjoy!